The family was never wealthy. They had servants in their kremlin apartment, of course, but they never owned a country estate or possessed any serfs. Working for the Russian state meant that Dr Bers entered the civil service and the Table of Ranks, thereby gaining greater social respectability. Indeed, by finally attaining the eighth rank of collegiate assessor in 1842, Andrey Estafevich was entitled to acquire hereditary nobility, but he was still considered a very unsuitable match for sixteen-year-old Lyubov Islavina, to whom he proposed after treating her as a patient. Quite apart from the fact that her family were old-world Russian aristocrats, albeit an illegitimate branch, who regarded him as little better than a tradesman, Bers was by this time already thirty-four, and a Lutheran to boot. Nevertheless, the marriage went ahead, and Andrey and Lyubov Bers had eight children. Sonya was the middle of three daughters, who were all educated at home, first by German governesses. When she was sixteen, in 1860, Sonya acquired a private teaching qualification from Moscow university. By this time she had got to know Tolstoy’s family quite well, having taken dancing lessons on Saturday afternoons one winter with his sister Masha’s three children. Masha had been her mother’s friend since childhood, and when the Bers came to visit Varya, Liza and Nikolay at home, their uncles Lev and Nikolay would sometimes be there as well.8
When Tolstoy first started to visit the Bers during his trips to Moscow, everyone assumed he was interested in the eldest daughter Elizaveta (Liza). But in the summer of 1862 he turned his attention to Sonya. It was an eventful few months. When the secret police had raided Yasnaya Polyana that summer Tolstoy had been away on the Bashkirian steppe taking his two-month koumiss cure, having been in poor health. He learned of the raid only when he visited the Bers in Moscow on his way back home back to Yasnaya Polyana at the end of July. Days later he had guests. Lyubov Alexandrovna, plus her three daughters and youngest son were on their way to spend a couple of weeks at Ivitsy, her father’s estate, which was not far away, and they decided to stay the night with Tolstoy. Lyubov had not been to Yasnaya Polyana since she was a child, and she was shocked by the patch of weeds growing in the gaping empty space where the old house had stood before being dismantled by its new owner. The wing that Tolstoy had settled in had never been intended to be a principal home, and it was quite a squash accommodating everybody. Along with the permanent residents (Tolstoy, Aunt Toinette and her companion Natalya Petrovna), his sister Masha was still staying, and now there were five extra guests. Beds were made up on the blue-and-white striped sofas downstairs for the three girls Liza, Sonya and Tanya, then twenty-seven, eighteen, and sixteen years respectively. A few months later the spartanly furnished room would be where Tolstoy sat down to write the opening chapters of
After being shown around, the city-dwelling Bers children were most excited to be taken into the garden to pick raspberries. Tolstoy, meanwhile, was distracted from his preoccupation with the recent disturbing events by the charms of Lyubov Alexandrovna’s ingenuous middle daughter. No sooner had the Bers arrived at Ivitsy than ‘le Comte’, as they called him, came riding over on his white horse to visit them.10 This is when he started communicating with Sonya by spelling out the first letters of words with a piece of chalk, which he would later immortalise when describing Levin’s courtship of kitty in
During this euphoric time Tolstoy tried to concentrate on a pedagogical article he was writing, but not very successfully. He did, however, write a forceful letter to Alexander II in which he complained in the strongest terms about the search of his estate: