I walked past the sheep pens on the way back to the house. On a lichened rock in the
middle of the close-cropped pasture a lean black kitten was hunched, looking down
at the deeper grass. He had two white paws that I could see, and a crook in his tail.
He was hunting. I stopped and stood silently. I watched his muscles tighten and tighten
and then, like an arrow released from the bow, he dived down onto something in the
grass. He hit it hard with both his front paws and then shot his head in to kill it
with a swift bite. He looked up at me and I suddenly knew he had been aware of my
scrutiny the whole time. The dark-gray mouse was limp in his jaws.
“I know where there are plenty of mice, mice fat on cheese and sausages,” I called
to him. He looked at me silently as if considering my words, and then turned and trotted
purposefully away with his prey. He had grown up fast, I thought to myself.
Cats do. Once a cat can hunt, he can get all he needs. Then his life is his own.
The thought came so clearly to my mind that I almost believed it was my own.
“I have need of a hunter such as you!” I called after him. He did not pause as he
trotted away.
I watched him go and thought that my needs meant little to anyone but me. What I needed,
I would have to obtain for myself.
Chapter 21
SEARCH FOR THE SON
The first task a lady must undertake in her new home is the establishment of respect
for herself. This may be more difficult than one might expect, especially if one is
moving into her new residence after wedding, and one’s husband’s mother is still the
mistress of the household. But, startling as it might seem, it can be even more difficult
for the lady who takes charge of her bachelor husband’s residence after wedding. In
a case where servants have become accustomed to there being only a master of the house,
the new lady may find it difficult to wrest control or even gain respect from the
upper echelon of servants. Stewards and cooks are notoriously hard to deal with in
this regard. The new mistress of the house will rapidly tire of hearing, “But this
is how it has always been done here.” Even worse is to be told by a servant, “This
is how the master prefers it be done.” If it is not addressed immediately, the new
lady of the house will find herself delegated to the same status as a visiting minstrel.
Often the best course is simply to dismiss the heads of staff and begin afresh with
servants of the lady’s choosing. But in cases where the master is attached to older
servants, the lady must be direct and firm in taking immediate control. It is a mistake
simply to accede to what is first offered to her. Immediately challenge the menus,
the flower arrangements, the attire of the staff—in other words, establish control
of your domestic domain from the moment you step in the door.